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What do you need to change the most in your life?
Posted on Oct 22nd, 2007
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djuro
djuro
This is in Response to the Questions and Reflections for October 22, 2007:
The illusion of needing things.
I too often realize I don't have something, in my closet, in my atelier, in my office, everywhere, there's always something I lack, and if I get it, then I'll be on the roll.
What a false belief it is!
I know exactly how it started, developed and grew with me.
Being aware of it, I am actually getting a lot better now in realising this absurdity, that I will somehow be a better, more effective me with something I now lack. I realise I can be the best me with what I have now. Getting this feeling of safety, of self-confidence is what I want to have within me all the time.
I too often realize I don't have something, in my closet, in my atelier, in my office, everywhere, there's always something I lack, and if I get it, then I'll be on the roll.
What a false belief it is!
I know exactly how it started, developed and grew with me.
Being aware of it, I am actually getting a lot better now in realising this absurdity, that I will somehow be a better, more effective me with something I now lack. I realise I can be the best me with what I have now. Getting this feeling of safety, of self-confidence is what I want to have within me all the time.
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That's something I am working on too. It's so hard to rid ourselves of those false beliefs, isn't it?
Hi Jen!
Yes, it's hard. But such a relief when we make it!
Just this morning I had one of those. I didn't make it to the shoemaker's before this rainy season, and my boots are soo loud because the heels are worn out. On my way to work I started thinking about how I must have woken up some kid with my walk. And I started to feel so unreasonably bad about myself. About walk! I was too harsh.
Then I decided to try to see the big picture. I thought, okay, I didn't make it before this rain, but I'll make it before the real deal, the snow and all, and it's not like I can do something about it now, I have to wear SOMETHING water-resistant.
So I just turned up my Ipod and walked in the rythm ;) I released this needing of things NOW.
I wonder if you'll agree, but I see how funny it actually is that all the women around me are like that, needing , buying things NOW, while all the men just take the shoes they have and don't think about it. They wear it until they're worn out, which is when they go buy themselves a new pair. And they probably don't think about it two weeks ahead and most likely purchase them under 5 minutes!
Oh my goodness that's so true! Especially with shoes–my husband will wear the same pair until they have holes, and then just go out and buy the exact same pair new! Me, I think about what the weather will be like, what I'll want to wear, and then get inevitably obsessed with some style/color that I must have NOW! I've really been trying to consider if certain purchases will really be “worth it” once I receive them, or if it was just retail therapy.
LOL, me too!
And guys…God bless them! I alway drop my mouth at the store when my guy chooses the shoes, tries them on, buys them and then calls my name while I still stand in women's departure in awe before the first pair that caught my eye!